by Lynell Cavner, Owner & Master Certified Bowen Practitioner, Lynell & Company
Forgiveness is both an initial decision to let go of bitterness as well as a long, ongoing process.
Are you willing?
Forgiving those who have wronged you sets you free of bitterness taking root and defiling you and everyone around you. Clinging to resentment only allows your offender to have power over your heart and keeps you locked in a prison of anger and mood swings.
Holding on to anger, bitterness and unforgiveness results in emotional pain that slowly churns deep within our body, eventually rising to the surface and waving a flag for attention.
Quite often when the area of the body that is creating the pain is addressed, the emotional hold is also released and soon the willingness to let go and forgive comes more in focus.
The “flag waving” (unless created by an actual accident) are areas needing attention on a deeper level. For example, when the hips begin to hurt for “no reason at all,” the underlying issue may be from fear of change, lack of emotional and/or financial support or rejection from self.
If it is the upper back or mid back aching, the underlying issues may be coming from guilt or feeling unloved or allowing yourself to be stuck in the past.
If it is the throat center/thyroid, the underlying issues may be stemming from lack of trust or the inability to speak feelings freely. One more example would be the ankles, these reflect inflexibility and guilt.
So, the questions that bear asking: Would you rather let go, forgive yourself and/or others and move freely, joyfully and pain free through this life? Or be bogged down with bitterness and anger with flags of pain waving along the way?
I don’t know where you are in your journey of forgiveness, but I encourage you to keep moving forward and shedding the bitterness and anger a little at a time. Holding on to those negatives only leads to a prison of mood swings and pain.
Bitterness and unforgiveness rob our lives of vitality, peace and the refreshing joy of life. Being able to forgive not only changes our mind, body and soul presently, it changes our future.
When you choose to forgive, you may be amazed at how quickly your life will flood with the joy and peace you lost.